Finding healthier ways to cope with problems

Veterans discuss how they attempted to cope with stress, nightmares, and other problems by turning to alcohol or drugs. It took strength for them to seek out more effective solutions, leave behind unhealthy ways of coping, and live healthier, more fulfilling lives.


Call The Veterans Crisis Line at (800) 273-8255 And Press 1. Or Send A Text Message To The Veterans Crisis Line At 838255.

They offer free, confidential support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

What is an alcohol or drug problem?

Do you have a problem with drinking or drug use? How can you tell? Many people drink alcohol responsibly or take drugs for medical purposes. To decide if your drinking or drug use is unhealthy or increases risk, it is important to stop and think about how these activities may be affecting your life.

Consider the following signs:

  • Does drinking alcohol or taking drugs sometimes interfere with your life at home, at work, or at school?
  • Do you sometimes have many drinks in a row, or find it hard to stop drinking or using drugs and wind up taking more than you intended?
  • Have your friends or family said they’re worried about your drinking or drug use?
  • Are your relationships suffering because of your drinking or drug use?
  • Have you gotten into situations while drinking or using drugs where you could have gotten hurt (e.g., driving, swimming, operating machinery, etc.)?
  • Have you wanted to cut down or tried to cut down on your drinking or drug use?
  • Have you found that you must drink or use drugs more than usual to achieve the same effect they once had? Or that the same number of drinks has less effect than it used to?
  • Have you spent a lot of time drinking or using drugs and being sick afterwards?
  • Have you given up or cut back on things that are important and interesting to you in order to drink or use drugs?
  • Is drinking or using drugs affecting your health or making you feel depressed or anxious?
  • Have you ever “blacked out” and not been able to remember what happened while under the influence of alcohol or drugs?
  • When the effects of drugs or alcohol were wearing off, have you felt sick, had trouble sleeping, or sensed things that were not real?

“My wife was sympathetic that I was drinking to cope with some of my deployment-related issues but she could only deal with it for so long. I think I made the decision to get help for her as much as I did for myself.”

Without really thinking about it, you may drink or take drugs as a way to try to cope with bad memories or traumatic experiences from your time in the military or with other difficult feelings.  Maybe your home situation is less than ideal or you’re having a hard time connecting with other people. Do you sometimes use alcohol or drugs to:

  • Feel “normal” and accepted?
  • Handle difficult issues or emotions in your life?
  • Get going in the morning?
  • Feel less worried or sad?
  • Fall asleep or sleep better?
  • Deal with tension?
  • Forget your problems?

Although it may seem like drinking or using drugs helps you to cope in the short run, these activities actually can make your problems worse. Using alcohol or drugs to cope might be hurting your health, interfering with work, and damaging your relationships. Taking action to address your substance use and its symptoms may seem unnecessary or possibly overwhelming at first. But for many people, it is a critical step toward happier and healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
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What can I do about drinking or drug use?

Quitting or cutting back drinking or taking drugs can be hard. Trying to do this on your own, without any support, can make it even harder. Talking to your family and friends could be a first step. They may be able to provide support and help you find the assistance that’s right for you.

There are many options for Veterans who want to cut down or stop using drugs or drinking alcohol. It doesn’t matter if you want to stop having one drink a day or if you have a life-threatening addiction — there are resources for you. Support and treatment come in many forms. One option is counseling, either one-on-one with a therapist or in a group. Another involves medication to help you reduce your use of alcohol or drugs. A third option is mutual-help groups with others who are working on similar problems. You can work with your doctor or counselor and try different types of treatment to find the one that’s best for you.

“It helped a lot to know that there were Veterans out there who were in the same place as me. Just listening to their stories and advice turned out to be more helpful and motivating than I could’ve ever imagined.”

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Give the San Jose Vet Center a call, at (408) 993-0729 to get back to your best life.


In Addition to VA resources, here are Community Addiction Resources



















San Jose Vet Center is open:

7 AM to Midnight on weekdays

8 AM to 4:30 PM on weekends (holidays include)  

Give them a call to get back to your best life. (408) 993-0729.


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